There are parts of motherhood that do not get talked about often. We post cute pictures on Instagram and share precious moments on Facebook that everyone wants to see. And that’s fine. But as with any job, motherhood can be difficult. As our children age, the job description stays the same, but the practical application can change daily. Each state of growth brings new triumphs and new challenges. Those seasons that are difficult can feel lonely. And it is here that our faith must rise to the surface and carry us through.
Oftentimes, it is when we are in the middle of the battle that it is hard to see any good. With eyes clouded, whether from tears or bloodshot sleepless nights, it can be difficult to see the issue that weighs the most. With thoughts racing with what ifs and only ifs, it can be difficult for the mind to tell the mouth to seek help. And with muscles fatigued from carrying the weight of worry, it can be difficult to lift even a prayer. Motherhood can be hard.
Cast your cares on the Lord
and he will sustain you;
he will never let
the righteous be shaken.
That word sustain conjures a sense of unwavering, concrete, foundational support. If you look it up in the dictionary, you will also find that to be sustained means to be nourished, propped up, and even confirmed.
Don’t we thirst for wisdom and strength when we are hit with an unpredictable situation?
Don’t we need a firm anchor to hang on to when we are sleep deprived, whether from caring for a newborn baby or because we have been in prayer all night for a teenager who has lost their way?
Don’t we need our role to be confirmed from time to time?
The living water found in the pages of the Bible will satisfy our craving and nourish us to the bone.
He can be trusted to keep us safe.
You are exactly the mother that your child needs. You were hand-picked.
Fellow moms, warrior friends, my sisters in arms…before the Lord will sustain us, we have a part to play.
We’ve got to let it go.
Although he already knows what we are carrying, he tells us to cast, to throw or release, that thing we need his help with, onto him. I love how The Message translation puts it;
Pile your troubles on God’s shoulders-he’ll carry your load, he’ll help you out
We have to do the piling, but sometimes our burden may seem too heavy to pick up, even if we intend to cast it onto him. When we want to grab what weighs us down and fling it with all we have onto God’s broad shoulders, sometimes all we have the strength to do is lean in with our forehead and push while tears flow and legs shake. But if we pay close attention, it’s right here that God sometimes does his best work. He tells us in 2 Corinthians 12 that his power is made perfect in weakness. When we are weak, he continues to be strong.
Just like casting a fishing net out to sea, it can be easy to let our fingers get tangled in the problems we need to release. So once you rest them there, remove your hands and step back.
And if you need help picking up whatever mama challenge you are facing right now, it’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to call a trusted friend, a mentor, a pastor, an older, wiser woman, and ask for help lifting your burden. You may find that whoever you call on was once weighed down with a similar care. You may find a word of encouragement and a “me too” on the other end of that conversation.
Fellow mama, if you are feeling pushed down by the weight of motherhood, perhaps it’s time to lay your cares across the strong back of your heavenly father. He is the husband you long for, the father your children deserve, and the author of your role as mom.
He has entrusted you with a precious life.
Have you placed your trust in him?
Help us to see when we are carrying heavy concerns on our own. Teach us how to hand those to you and leave them in your hands. Lead us to others who can show us how to do this well. We do trust you. Help us to trust you more.
In Jesus’ Name,