Real Talk About the Beating We Can Take When We’re Trying to Find Direction
We’ve all been there.
Decisions need to be made. Clarity is elusive. Discernment is on vacation.
What school should I send my kids too? Where should I work? Should I work at all? Should I start that business? Should I invest in this relationship anymore?
Sometimes when I’ve got a decision to make and there are multiple choices in front of me, jumping up and down with hands raised chanting “Pick me! Pick me!”, I can feel like I’m in a bumper car. You know the place where the track is oval shaped and there are people all around driving like crazy. It’s loud from the antennas screaming across the ceiling. It’s lonely because I’m in this small car all by myself. And if I don’t keep moving, I’m a dead man!
THAT’S how I feel sometimes. Only there’s an exit sign pointing the way out with 2 0r 3 or 4 doors standing there. I’ve got to figure out which door to push on in order to escape the madness. I stare down door #1, grab the wheel with both hands, put the pedal to the medal and VROOOOMMMM! Only to find out that that door was made of hard steel with no give. I’m thrust back with my shoulder bruised from the seat belt and my head spinning from the impact.
No time to think…there are other cars on the track eying me down. I grab the wheel, brace myself and head for door #2. BAMMMMM! I thrust back AGAIN into the chaos of life. Feeling discouraged. Feeling even more bruised and battered. Feeling a little confused.
Sometimes it may take ramming into a door or two before remembering that my map is right there in the glove compartment. Maybe it’s been sitting there since I was a child. Maybe I just threw it there a few months ago. Either way, it’s there and the lay of the land has not changed.
THE map. God’s word.
Before you say “that’s too big of a book, how will that help me make a decision by Friday?”, listen. That book may not tell us exactly which door to pick, but it does tell us how to make that decision. It does tell us how to get those other cars that are zooming around us to pull together, using them for leverage as we formulate a plan. That book tells us who to call on for prayer support and wisdom, how to look over our shoulder and learn from our past and what the peace of God feels like when we’re on the right track with Him.
“My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.”
In life, we will get a little beat up from time to time. We are imperfect people living in an imperfect world surrounded by imperfect friends and family. We will cycle through times of cruising along, doing the speed limit with the wind blowing through our hair and a smile on our face. We will also cycle through times where we are white knuckling the steering wheel at a fork in the road, begging God to show us which way we should go. Sometimes we may knock on a door that won’t open. Other times, it will open for us before our hand even gets to the handle.
I can’t tell you steps one, two and three to take in order to avoid having a fender bender. It’s not that simple.
What I can challenge you to do is to stay close to your Heavenly Father. And trust Him. The One who designed your road. The One who drew the map. The One who holds the keys to all the doors.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
Surround yourself with people who also look to Him for guidance. People who recognize who He is and who love Him. I can challenge you to look for the positives in every situation and to stay in continual conversation with Him.
These are the things that will help us heal from those bruises. These are the actions we can take that will help us make wise decisions. These are the real-life VERBS that we can incorporate into our life style.
Life can be hard. Decision making can be hard. Let’s stay close to the One who is eager to lead us and has our best interests in mind. Let’s forgive ourselves as quickly as He is willing to forgive us.
Take a breath and tighten that belt. I’m sure you’ll be faced with making some decisions before the end of today that will matter. You’ve got this!!
Reflect & Respond:
**Can you relate?
**If you’re trying to make a decision right now, get with a trusted friend and ask her to begin helping you to pray for direction. You’ll be encouraged.